Making a girl aroused with text messages will increase her excitement and lead you to more sexual and intimate conversations but also, you can turn the next date into having sex with her way easier.
Making women wet with text messages is ideally about getting them to an emotional state where they feel comfortable to open up sexually. I always have a goal by making girls turned on: to make them think about me as a man they want to have sex with.
How can you make women turned on by text messages?
- Show your attractive side in your photos
- Act confidently and dominantly
- Appear like a man who has options
- Use sexually related topics to get her into an aroused mindset
- Flirt with her
- Express your desires to make her physically attracted
- Use detailed sexual language to turn her on
- Build up sexual tension but don’t satisfy her
In this blog post, you will learn how to make girls sexually aroused with text messages, how to be sexually more appealing, and how to behave to make them want to sleep with you. I will also show many text messages I use on a daily basis that are super exciting for girls.
Before you send her anything that can make her turned on, you have to be seen as an appealing guy. Be someone with who she can comfortably imagine sexual scenarios. Pay attention to these critical qualities:
Show your attractive side on your photos
Whether she has seen you in person before or not, you have to have some quality photos of yourself on your social media or dating profile because you don’t want her to associate you with anything low quality. It’s not that physical appearance is everything, but it’s way easier to make a woman turned on with text messages if she can see you in your most attractive shape.
- Get rid of grainy, low-quality photos.
- Show positive emotions
- Upload some stylish pictures
Act confidently and dominantly
Present yourself in a way where she looks at you as a powerful, confident, and subsequently dominant guy.
It will be effortless to trigger many women’s sexuality when they accept your dominance. Therefore some girls will eagerly send nudes and exciting messages to you.
However, saying confidently “send me something sexy” or “let’s get on a date” after 5 minutes of small talk feels unauthentic, and she will be unlikely to fulfill your wishes. Build up your dominant personality gradually with these subtle techniques:
- “I think I like you” is dominant because a statement of intent is dominant. Adding “I think” prevents the girl from losing interest because she now has to chase your full validation.
- Texting “You’re cute” makes her feel small and somewhat inferior without offending her.
- Teasing also works because the “teaser” is always in a higher position (he judges the other), but girls don’t feel that you want to oppress them since the whole situation is based on humor and fun.
- Playfully disagreeing with her. Make sure to follow this up with something funny or witty.
- “I like that” (if she says something smart). Most guys are afraid to state their opinion. When you validate her opinion by saying, “You are right” it shows that you have your own ideas about things and don’t bend your reality to impress her.
Appear like a man who has options
Women don’t want to have sex with every man they meet. They thoroughly select a guy who is the best quality among others. The sexually related conversation makes a girl wet easier if she talks to a guy who is attractive enough to have other women in his life, but he chooses her instead of other girls.
Women want to be good enough, hot enough for high-quality guys. Women also want sexual tension that they only get from guys they aren’t 100% sure they can get. If you desperately try to be sexting with her, but she senses that you aren’t good enough or you don’t feel good enough to have other quality girls in your life, then it’s going to turn her off.
Before you show how much she turned you on, she must deserve your sexuality with other than only her looks. Create playful challenges for her, and make her qualify herself to you. Women want emotional ups and downs throughout the entire conversation. She won’t respect you nor find you exciting if she knows you are 100% into her no matter what she does or how she behaves.
Be non-threatening and don’t display low value
Before you can even start to build her attraction, the girl will decide whether you mean a threat to her or not. Of course, you don’t want anything wrong, but honestly, the internet is filled with guys with harmful intentions. Also, she might feel uncomfortable when she talks to a guy who cannot control his emotions and desires or hides something from her. Even if you text her sexual things, be playful, make the conversation fun, and don’t try to portray a perfect image of yourself because it may come off as you try to hide something from her.
It’s also crucial to avoid sending messages that turn her off:
Don’t be needy, pushy, shy, or timid. Don’t let her control the conversation, and don’t show any negative emotional affection like jealousy, anger, or frustration.
Set the frame for sexual escalation
Before you jump into sexting with her, it’s essential to touch on topics that are sexually related but not overly sexual and see her reactions. About 30-40% of women will never take part in sexting, no matter how attracted or aroused they are. Honestly, you won’t know if she finds dirty messaging arousing until you test the waters. I texted with plenty of girls who looked like the most innocent women, and it turned out they where highly sexual.
You can test if she likes dirty texting with sexually related topics, sexual references, or obviously with flirting.
Sexual references
With sexual references, you can tell sexual types of stories others did or said. With this technique, you can share very intimate topics with her without worrying about appearing weird. No one becomes upset if you tell a very sexual story about someone else.
By impersonating others, you can go as far as you want regarding sexual topics. In the worst-case scenario, the girl will shut you down because she is not used to these kinds of messages.
Important note
It's best to not bring up these mini-stories out of thin air but share them as a related topic to the conversation.
Flirting
To show the girl that you care about her in a fun, flirtatious style generates trust; shows that you’re not trying to hide your interest (like most guys). Contrary to popular belief, most women like guys who express their attraction towards them.
At the beginning of the conversation, if you show too much interest and if you haven’t built up a funny, dominant, confident character, your attempt to bring the conversation to a more sexual level may backfire.
Like any other technique, don’t overdo it! The idea is to keep her in doubt that she doesn’t know what will happen to her, what can be expected of you.
Make her turned on with dirty text messages
Once you get her in the sexual mood, you can use your sexual escalation arsenal to get her become aroused and sometimes to make her want to sleep with you immediately.
As soon as you have ignited her attraction and shown your playful side with the fun, flirty messages, displayed your dominant side, and you have developed some trust and harmony with her, it is time to immerse yourself in her deeper desires.
It can be surprising that as soon as you get here, she will often be sexually proactive.
As a man, it is your job to unleash her deepest sexual desires. How far you go is up to you and the relationship with her you developed until this point.
Important note
Only use these sexy text messages on girls who previously showed interest in your flirting texts and sexually related topics.
Expressing your sexuality makes women aroused
To make her turned on with text messages, she needs to feel that you physically desire her. If a man has an attractive personality, this mental attraction in a girl’s mind can be transformed into a physical desire when she feels the man wants to make out with her.
Recent discoveries show that women are somewhat narcissistic regarding sexuality. They can quickly get aroused if the guy wants them. Therefore, an engagement and a bondage sex fantasy can be both exciting. Both show an extreme desire for the woman.
“Women want a passionate and uncontrollable desire from men — a desire to make an otherwise confident and determined man lose control.”
Sexual language
You will be amazed at how far you can go with a girl when it comes to unleashing her desires. Remember, messages open the way to women’s imagination.
Your job is to unlock this door and create a world where the two of you are comfortable, where you can imagine anything. Women are very easily get aroused by the detailed language.
For men, desire has a physical nature, whereas women experience it also on an intellectual and emotional level. Therefore, try to communicate with her in as much detail and color as possible. Create a more elaborate picture in her mind. The more detailed the story you share, the more you will be able to arouse her.
When you chat, you should be careful to describe your feelings and reactions like in books instead of objectively outlining reality. This is a quote from the book “A Court of Mist and Fury”:
“I moaned then, tilting my head back to give him better access. His hands clamped on my waist, then moved—one going to cup my rear, the other sliding between us.
This—this moment, when it was him and me and nothing between our bodies …
His tongue scraped the roof of my mouth as he dragged a finger down the center of me, and I gasped, my back arching.”
These overly-detailed erotic stories are like adult films for women. So, when the mood is heated, try to come up with messages similar to this one.
You can create tremendous sexual tension by utilizing her imagination. Make sure you handle these messages sparingly, as they are designed to build on the trust that you already have created with her. When used correctly, erotic texts will instantly excite the girl.
Arouse her mind
Statistics show that women are ten times more likely to search for sexual texts on the internet than men. It tells us that women live their sexuality on a psychological level. Describing in your messages what you would do to the woman allows them to experience their feelings in real life. They can get aroused easily if you create a safe place in her mind without prejudice.
Use the words “imagine” and “feel” to instruct the woman to think of something. The “feel” command automatically gives the woman the feeling you describe to her.
These words are very effective, so use them when you want her to imagine something. Critical points to the technique are self-confidence and control throughout the entire conversation. Women find sexually dominant men very attractive, accompanied by calm confidence.
If you feel like your messages remind you of sex stories in a random $9 romantic novel on Amazon, you do it great! It’s not a coincidence that women love these books because they portray reality very directly.
Build up sexual tension
Women LOVE sexual tension. There is no tension if you text, “I would have sex with you right now.” Can it be arousing? Yes! But it lacks uncertainty when she doesn’t know what will happen next.
Building up sexual tension is also great because it turns the tables. It’s no more you are the one who chases her, but she becomes the one who wants to get more tension and finally satisfaction from you. And it makes her more attracted to you.
The key to making women aroused with dirty text messages is to maintain sexual tension as long as you can.
If you have never seen her before and want to date her, be cautious with sexual messages. After the excitement is gone, the girl may feel that she crossed a line and think about you as an overly sexual guy.
Arouse, but don’t satisfy her because it keeps her motivated to date you and sleep with you.
