Maybe you wonder how to tell if a girl is aroused when you date someone or want to find a girl in the club who is DTF. Knowing whether she is sexually excited or not is a valuable skill because:
- You can decide who is at the club or other social gathering you can take home with the least effort.
- You can read her if she wants to sleep with you at the moment, so you won’t waste your (and her) time asking for another date to get closer to her.
How to tell if a girl is aroused?
It’s painful to think back about how many times I had the chance to make out with a hottie, but I failed to read the aroused signs. To prevent such accidents, I show you 20 sure signs to tell if a girl is aroused.
1. She touches herself
You can tell if a girl is excited when she touches herself. She may touch herself without being aware of it, but it can be a seduction tactic too: she wants you to imagine feeling her and turn on you instantly.
The most common body parts women touch when aroused are their lips, neck, chin, arms, and thighs, which provide them temporary sexual relief. When you see a girl touching several of these erogenous zones, you can bet she wants sex. If she is doing this when talking to you, you can assume she imagines a sexual scenario with you.
2. She plays with her lips
Lips are the most sensitive part of the human body. They have over 1 million nerve endings; that’s why kissing can be a huge turn-on for both women and men.
When they are aroused, women can’t help but play with their lips:
- Women bite their lips
- They lick their lips
- They play with straws, cigarettes, and food
When a girl talks to you and bites or licks her lips, you can be sure she wants to turn you on.
Important note
Women usually want to turn you on for two reasons: the obvious reason is to have sex with you, but they also use lip-biting and other seduction tactics to test how easily they can manipulate you. If you become needy you fail these tests. On the other hand, staying confident and grounded will make her even more attracted.
3. She flirts with you
Women are somewhat different when it comes to sexual escalation: they can not only turn on physically but on a mental level too. Flirting is effective when sex is in the air, but it is communicated indirectly.
Women love to flirt because it arouses their minds and generates sexual tension, but since nobody talks about sex openly, it doesn’t make them appear promiscuous.
In my experience, women most often use double-meaning sentences to refer to both everyday things and sexually related topics.
4. She uploads sexy photos on social media
This is the equivalent of wearing tight skirts, high-heels, and vivid lipstick at the party.
She wants attention. Now.
When the girl is not a heavy-poster on social media but uploads a hot photo or profile pic on her social account, she usually wants someone to approach her (online or in real life).
I experienced it many times after a female friend of mine stopped dating some random guy or when a girl stopped dating me.
5. She looks at your body and talks about it
When a girl asks about your muscles, for example, it provides her an opportunity to touch you and look at your body without being awkward and needy.
When she compliments your body, she either wants to escalate you sexually or tests your reactions.
“I like that you have this smooth skin.”
This is a genuine compliment.
“You look fit. Do you work out often?”
This can easily be a test because she expects you to qualify yourself. If you answer “Yeah, I work out 4 times a week. Do you like my muscles?” you fail the test.
6. She plays with her hair
Hair is one of the most crucial health indicators. For this reason, most men find nice hair sexy on women. Usually, when women – intentionally or not – play with their hair, they want to grab your attention by subcommunicating “look how healthy and sexy I am.”
7. She wants to drink with you.
We usually don’t think about sexuality as a means to exercise power, but it is indeed a very effective tool in women’s hands to influence men. That’s why aroused women often face a problem: they cannot communicate overtly that they want sex because they potentially lose power and status. In other words, they don’t want to look promiscuous.
To overcome this challenge, a girl may want to convince you to drink with her, so if anything happens between the two of you, she can blame alcohol and rationalize the decisions to you, her girlfriends, and even herself. With this, she can have sex with you and keep her status and power as well.
8. She touches you
In many cases, when a girl touches you on your face, arms, shoulders, belly, or chest multiple times during a party or a random gathering, she wants to divert your thoughts to more sexual and intimate places. Again, this can be a test, an attempt to make you jump in the bed with her, or both.
9. She has a higher voice than usual
Studies revealed that the female voice rises perceptibly a day or two before ovulation when women are most likely to become pregnant.
When women raise the pitch of their voices, they essentially try to appear more feminine during the most fertile time of their cycle (without being aware of it). This effect probably serves biological purposes to make women sexier when they ovulate.
10. She shows more of her body
When she wears a short skirt, reveals her belly, shoulders, or her cleavage, chances are she wants to get some attention. If she is aroused and notices that you watch her, she may try to draw your attention to her uncovered body parts by crossing her legs, playing with her hair, or touching her arms.
11. She holds eye contact
One of the most foolproof signs of horniness is when a girl holds eye contact for an extended period of time. Eye contact usually means “I’m approachable”. Is it a sign that she wants to have sex with you? Well, no, especially if she doesn’t know you. It’s more of a sign that you have her attention.
You can tell if a girl is turned on if you talk to her and she keeps looking into your eyes. It means you are interesting, and she finds you somewhat appealing. Women who aren’t interested in guys try to avoid eye contact, especially in public gatherings, because it can subcommunicate that she is down to make things physical.
12. She wants to go to your place
Sometimes women are so desperate that they want outright tell you they want to go over to your place. But in most cases, they ask about your home, if you have alcohol, whether you want to eat something with her or if you want to continue talking there because the club is too noisy.
13. She wants you to touch her
Women are physically much weaker than men, and sexual assault can be a possibility, especially in clubs that are filled with drunk and assertive guys. So, they need a considerable amount of trust or be very turned on if they want you to touch them.
14. She is curious about unimportant things
When a girl is turned on and wants to make out with you, she often shows enthusiasm about random things like your weekly schedule, breakfast or new shoes.
It’s because she wants you to keep talking to her to increase the probability of getting closer to you.
15. She talks about sex
One of the most apparent signs of arousal is obviously when a girl talks about sex. On the one hand, she can’t help but think about sex all the time. On the other hand, she wants you to imagine making love with her.
16. She puts effort into her looks
When women are turned on, they tend to become more conscious about their appearance: they usually wear more makeup, high heels, and dresses that draw attention.
17. She makes obvious moves
You can tell if a girl is sexually aroused and wants to sleep with you when she makes advances on you. For example, she pushes her back to you or even to several guys on the dancefloor, flirts with everyone, or asks you to take her home because she is tired or too drunk, but she doesn’t look any of these.
18. She teases you
Teasing is a fun power game between you and her. When she teases you, she wants to make fun of you, but more importantly, she wants you to tease her back. Teasing is perfect to set up a playful and flirty vibe between you. It’s like a tag play but on a mental level.
19. She compliments your looks.
You can know if a girl is aroused if she compliments you. Yes, women give compliments to be polite, but if she talks about how sexy you look in this jacket or tells you she likes your legs in your jeans, you can bet she is very interested in you and your body.
20. Girlfriends and boyfriends
Let’s suppose you go out and meet a girl who turns out to be a great company during the night. If she asks if you have a girlfriend or tells you she is single; you can assume she is very interested in you.
However, if you meet another girl and become very aroused in your presence, sometimes she won’t bring up whether she is single or not. Also, she won’t ask you if you have a girlfriend because she doesn’t want unnecessary barriers before having sex with you.
